Wrapping Up The Year 🎁

Hey lovelies,

It has been such a beautiful journey since creating this blog 2 years ago. As 2024 ends, I wanted to give an in depth recap of how my year went - seeing as how I've been sort of inconsistent with blogging. There have been so many changes in my life this year, but by the grace of God I am still standing and better than ever. Lord knows all the trials and tribulations I've had to face this year and I am so proud of me. 

First things first, I started this year off with my cousin Raven - we brought the new year in together coloring, drinking wine, and eating grapes. We wanted to participate in that TikTok trend that went viral around this time last year, but we felt that getting under the table to eat the grapes would be too much - especially if it didn't produce tangible results lol. Needless to say, we ate the grapes on the couch while having girl talk. 

Some of the things I'd hoped that eating the grapes would bring me was traveling more, more money, a positive love life, and more beauty - and actually now that I'm thinking about it, all of those things came true. Although I'm single at the moment, there was a time period where I was ready to be locked down lol and thankfully that situation ended. I made more money than I ever have thus far (received two raises and plenty of gifts), I lost weight - well my weight fluctuates, but I'm pretty satisfied with my body right now, and I finally got my passport and went on a cruise to the Bahamas. I am truly thankful for all this year has shown me, and I'm excited for next year! Success is on the horizon.. technically, it's already here ✨

I hate abandoning my blog, especially because writing makes me happy. Life has just been a little overwhelming and busy; but I have some exciting new endeavors on the way and I can't wait to update my readers. 

My yoni steam blend, Pink Matter, is still available made to order! 🩷 please send me a DM on any social media to complete an intake form and order. Love y'all, talk to you soon!

Happy Pink Birthday 💖

💕🥳 Today makes thirty-one whole years that I've been on this beautiful planet. I'm always so emotional on my birthday because it's always a day of reflection for me. My life literally feels like a movie sometimes (iykyk 😵‍💫). In my thirties, I welcome more love, more authentic relationships, and more peace into my life because I deserve it. I've grown so much over the last year. I've realized helping people feel their best despite what they go through feeds my spirit more than any material possession can. I love providing a sense of light, calmness and comfort to others, and I'm so excited to provide a much needed service to my community and intertwine wellness and beauty together. This is only the beginning.

🌿 I'm happy to announce my first yoni steam blend, Pink Matter, is available now. This particular blend helps manage menstruation symptoms like PMS and PMDD, and is created with the intentions of self-confidence, self-love, resilience, and beauty. This blend features an authentic hand-made rose quartz charm bracelet and instructions for use. As of now, please send me a dm on any of my social media sites for your order.

Thank you for supporting me, and thank you for all of my birthday wishes 💖🙏🏽

Diary Tea 🤭🍵

 It's really been forever since I just used my blog as an online diary. 

Whew baby 2023 has been a year for me... from losing relationships that I thought were meaningful, to getting a new job and car... it has been a rollercoaster ride. One thing I can say, though, is that my mental health has been in the healthiest place it has been in forever. I'm honestly so thankful and blessed for that. In 2020 and 2021, I was involuntarily admitted to psychiatric wards, the second trip was at a facility right outside of Atlanta called Summitridge - that place was truly terrible. From the catty nurses (mind you, I was already going through a crisis) to the blood stained walls in my room, the 3-in-one body wash/shampoo/conditioner that they give you, the ridiculous activities that make you feel like a toddler, the slick sexual comment I got from a male worker, the eye opening comment one of the homeless people said to me, the wonderful friends I made, the beautiful young women who felt comfortable expressing their trauma to me, the dismissive doctors that just want to prescribe you unneeded medication - the whole health industry, ESPECIALLY mental health, needs some serious evaluation. That whole experience truly changed the trajectory of my life and I truly feel that it is in the most positive ways. I am so thankful to have experienced that, because during that dark time, God planted seeds in me that are manifesting in my real life right now. My relationship with God grew stronger than ever. I will never feel like I'm going through anything alone, because I'm not. I feel his presence in and around me daily. I feel protected and covered at all times and I truly understand why I had to experience what I did. 

I get so many accolades and praises for what I do at work, and while that makes me feel good because I unfortunately struggle with imposter syndrome sometimes (I feel like I'm coming out of it at this point), I also sometimes feel like people say positive things to just keep me and make me happy. I've expressed this to my friends and colleagues who I trust, and they all say to accept the compliments - but if you know how it is to want perfection, you know my struggle. I think that's just the Virgo in me... pair that with my Capricorn moon and that's a recipe for a workaholic perfectionist. I just want any and everything I'm attached to, to be great. In 2024, I'm praying for continued elevation and success. I'm making beautiful connections and it's all making sense now.

I just wanted to update my readers on what's been up with me. 2024 is going to be a very busy year for me, but I really plan to work on my time management so I have time to really tend to my blog. I feel most comfortable sharing my life updates here. I also deleted my Instagram, and I may keep it deleted until my birthday or whenever I just wake up and decide to reactivate it. I got tired of being stalked and just the feeling of being monitored was really getting to me - unnecessary added stress. The things I've endured in my love life have been crazy, but I forgive myself and the people who traumatized me. Everyone has their own battles to fight and this life isn't easy. With that being said, I've been single since 2018, and I'm finally coming to a point where I'm ready for love again. I'm ready to open my heart and allow someone in. I'm also ready for more friendships specifically with likeminded women. I want accountability partners, I want women who have goals and visions around me - not ones who sit up and talk about men all day and night. I'm just ready for my community, my true soul tribe.. and I feel it coming together.

I'll end it here. If you're reading this and made it this far, I want to thank you for taking time out of your day to know more about me. I hope you have a great close to 2023 and Happy New Year! Here's to a year of success, growth, and more love 💋

From Me, To Me...💗

I am so proud of you, beautiful. You have endured the unimaginable, the things you were never prepared for, the heartbreak, the emptiness, the darkness - and with God's grace, strength, and unconditional love you became the most beautiful wildflower. 

I love you deep. 

I love how you always smile during hardships. Your world could literally be crashing down and from looking at you, no one could tell... at least where it matters (in the professional life), family and close friends may disagree. 

You grow through absolutely everything you go through - and your light shines even brighter. I pray this 30th year of life brings more peace, more love, more serenity. 

May you become even more in alignment with the frequency of abundance, resilience, and expansion in the best ways possible.

Happy Birthday, Briya 💗

 

Soul Ties...👀

Sigh... I've been back and forth with myself about posting this, but it's been heavy on my mind and heart for like weeks tbh. Please be careful about not only who you give your body to, but how/when. 

If you're having unprotected sex with someone, idc what anyone says, that creates a soul tie especially if it's good chile 😮‍💨 now, as a spiritual woman, I also know the power of having sex on your period, after yoni steaming with specific herbs, during certain moon cycles, and more... but the biggest and most powerful soul tie you can create is visiting pound town while flo is flo'ing. First of all, blood is binding. It's one of the most powerful tools used in witchcraft/black magic. I do not practice black magic, but I'm pretty knowledgeable. I'm from the south and there are so many rituals and little things I know, thanks to my ancestors and God for blessing me with gifts - and I'm great at discerning intentions of people and protecting myself spiritually from certain energies. 

With that being said, there are some women that attempt to keep a partner by using their menstrual blood in their food. I, personally, would never - due to the fact that these men (or whoever) will become so INFATUATED with you that they could potentially kill you... it very much gives fatal attraction. I would never play with anyone's free will, that karma would be crazy. 

Anyway, I have a friend who created a strong soul tie with a man - he literally consciously chose to eat her blood during a sexual act - and now he's addicted to her. This man's bm constantly stalks her, he's always hitting her up from fake numbers and pages, and it's just a whole circus show. He would give her his money, try to sneak her from her house, get extremely jealous whenever she wasn't available to him, try to impregnate her to "trap" her, he even choked her out before.. luckily she wasn't alone so his chaotic ass stopped - but it's the fact he was that pressed to do that. 'Til this day, she is still getting stalked. It's a very scary situation because you never know where people's minds are these days. It's becoming scarier and scarier out here.

So, always be mindful about who you share yourself with and remember blood is binding! That person will be drawn to you and not even realize why, and it is not cute - trust me. 

🩷 I know I said I would have an anonymous "ask me" section, but honestly I haven't had the time to do that and I just wanted to share this info with y'all real quick! LOL. I'll include an ask me portion soon.. but for now, feel free to comment anonymously with any questions if you're comfortable. 

Be safe my honey's 🍯🤍

Photoshoot Tea 💝

It's so interesting how we're the new adults and our parents are becoming the elders. I'm not gonna lie, it's heartbreaking to see. I never thought about the days I'd witness my parents growing older, I'm always so focused on how fast time is going by in my own life... I'm realizing how fast it's going in my parent's lives too.

I've been realizing a lot about everything 🙄 time just keeps moving and you literally have to move with it or the next thing you know, 5 years have gone by and all you have to show for it is "should've, would've, could've". I really believe becoming uncomfortable for growth is one of the groundings of success. I never want to live my life regretting anything.. so becoming comfortable being uncomfortable is my motto right now. Hell, honestly as long as I look good I can accomplish and get through anything. That's why this hair is about to get done this weekend! 

I'll literally feel like it's the end of the world - go get my hair, nails, and toes done- and no one can tell me a thinggg 😂

Which is why I have to always look like a bad bitch when I leave the house. I have to look put together, especially while I'm at work lol. One of my coworkers actually calls me Barbie & I loveee it - that brings me to my 30th photoshoot and birthday celebrations 🥰 I have such a cute idea for my photoshoot. I've shown the women I'm closest to, and they all agree it screams BRIYA 💕 I'm so excited! 

For my celebration, I really think I want to be alone. I just know for a fact I'll enjoy my birthday if I'm alone. People are so iffy, and honestly if someone was to ruin my day I might just ruin their life.. so to save every one's time and energy, I really prefer to have a lowkey luxury getaway in my favorite city. I might invite my favorite 🥷for literally one night 😭 but for the most part I really want to be alone - mostly because I just know I'll be crying at midnight. I always cry on my birthday, but I know I'm gonna be boohoo'in because LAWDDD my 20's almost took me tf out of here and they're not over .. this decade is definitely going out with a bang, so yeah I want a calm transition into my 30's.

I might have different celebrations in different cities throughout Virgo season.. maybe a new country.. hmmm 🤔 

It's so crazy how being let down forces you to either have a bitter outlook on life, or literally love yourself so much your standards raise. I refuse to allow myself to settle for certain situations and people, because I love myself too much. Once you put all that love, effort, and energy you were giving to people (platonic and romantic) into yourself, you literally elevate to a new level and radiate on a higher frequency. I love how I walk into a room and people literally turn their heads. I used to be really self conscious about that, but I had to realize I'm fine as hell 🤷🏽‍♀️ and I walk with confidence.. baby I would stare too. Putting extra time and energy into yourself also attracts people on the same level. 

Back to my photoshoot - I have two super cute looks in mind and I need a fire photographer and MUA on set in either Atlanta or Augusta.. I'm thinking Atlanta. Y'all I cannot waittt I need it to look a certain way so the people I choose have to be on their shit and take their crafts seriously, because this is literally my 30th birthday we're talking about 🤌🏽

I'm entering my prime. 💖

 

PMDD, my AncestryDNA results, and moreee 💋

Whew chileee...

I's been an interesting couple of weeks. I'm officially getting settled into my new position, I love it for the most part - very different from anything else I've ever done, but I actually do enjoy what I do. It's just being around and dealing with different personalities... THAT'S what I'm getting used to. Nonetheless I haven't had any issues.

In 2021, I was diagnosed with PMDD (Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder), which was sort of a relief for me because originally I was diagnosed with a more severe mood disorder - but my doctor did some analyzing and tests and it turns out my "episodes" would happen literally right before or during my period. I was prescribed antidepressants, which I don't take anymore - but they personally never helped me anyway. It took some time and therapy to realize what would actually work for me. I started drinking raspberry leaf, peach, and ginger teas around that time of the month and it helped tremendously. I also pay extra attention to my self care. I have my spa days during that time, I paint, I do my rituals (especially if the moon is in significant phases of my chart), I do my monthly skin care routines, and really just make sure I tend to myself as if I'm the Queen of the world because if I don't... life is just terrible for me lol, and I swear I'm not being dramatic. My moods can be scary, one day I'll share with y'all what happened to me during a time I wasn't aware of my PMDD. One of the symptoms are being fog brained or scatterbrained during that time, and baby that has been my mood for the past week OMG .. I can be really ditzy sometimes 😂 and it's really because of this. I'm so glad it's pretty much over for the month, I swear my hair turns blonde for like a week per month. I really feel like this disorder should be talked about more, because it can also be really dangerous leading to depression and suicidal thoughts.

Let's chat about my AncestryDNA™ experience and results 💚

I'm a Naija galll and I'm so happy. I always knew 😭 but no seriously when I FINALLY got my results, I was smiling so hard. Ever since I was a child, people always assumed I was biracial or multiracial, and I've been wanting to get this done for a while - I'm glad I finally did it. So, NO I'm not biracial unless you count the lil 8% white I have. I'm actually kind of excited to have Wales ancestry too because idk... reading up on it and peeping the scenery gave me Game of Thrones vibes 😂 I just feel like it's sort of royal, but to me Nigeria screams royalty, so I'm just extra excited 😍

If you're interested in getting your Ancestry results, just prepare yourself not only for the wait... it took about 2 months for the whole process (buying the kit, doing your sample, sending it back, them receiving it, analyzing it, and uploading results), but for the family tea you may come across. You may find some skeletons in the closet, just be prepared for anything because I was actually very surprised by what I found out. 

Okay I just got off work and I'm literally so tired.. so I'll end it here 💞 I hope y'all have a beautiful rest of your week.